My mother won't speak to me till I apologize to her for hurting her feelings and walking out on her the other day. I have been stubborn and not wanting to give in but now my son is upset because he wants to see her and it's been a week. She usually takes the kids every weekend and talks to them on the phone during the week but I just haven't been willing to give in, now I wonder if I should for the sake of my kids. This is what happened that started the issue.
Easter Sunday my mom was saying how she gets down and plays with the kids and they have fun together and she asked me if I remembered when she did the same with me. I told her no not really, what I remember was when I was older, after my parents divorced, she worked 2 jobs, was tired all the time and had issues with my teenage sisters being a pain in the butt so she was stressed all the time. I mostly just went in my room and watched TV alone.
Monday she tells me that that upset her that I said that to her and that she was not able to sleep all Sunday night and she asked if I thought she had been a bad mother? I said no, but that I just didn't remember that far back, my parents divorced when I was 5 years old. She told me well when you were little I took you and your sisters to an amusement park and I was in so much pain that I had to take aspirin all day and almost ODd on it and I did that all for YOU and your father even refused to go with me and help me.
Then she brought up when I supposedly locked my younger cousin in the back room and caused my mom and her brother to have a falling out and she said that she was dis-invited to Christmas diner over that and that was because of me. Again I was about 5 years old and don't even remember that. Then she told me that she was always upset and stressed because my room was a mess and I got bad grades and I didn't help with chores and I just stayed in my room all the time and ignored everyone.
Then she stared telling me that shes sorry (sarcastically) that I felt I had such a terrible child hood but maybe if I had done what I was told and got good grades she would have been a better mother. I told her, I never said you were a bad mom I said I don't remember anything from my early years.
After that she started bad mouthing my father who is now dead, and blaming him for all her stress and saying that she resented the fact that he and I had a better relationship. I was like well, we went swimming, fishing duck hunting, went to the races, watched wrestling, and all you ever did was yell at me and insult me and make me wear pink frilly dresses lol.
By then she was in tears and yelling at me in front of my kids and just getting hysterical so I just got up got my kids together and left. As I was walking away she shouted "You cant take criticism very well can you!" I didn't fight back cause I know that's what she wanted and I wasn't going to play her games but the fact that she hasn't called and is now ignoring me tells me she is still mad and won't give in till I apologize for calling her a "bad mother" which I don't feel that I did. I was just being honest, but now I don't know what to do.
The kids love her but I don't think I should be the one to say I'm sorry because I'm really not. I don't think I did anything wrong. Anyway, vent over. Thanks for listening/reading.
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I wish I could tell you with all honesty to go fix it some how with your mom. My two DDs do not talk to me either. The oldest doesn't because she say I was a bad mom and I need physiological help. She doe notwant my grandsons to be around me. I don't even know them. My youngest just stoped talking to me. She was staying with us and then she deided to go back to her DH. Now she is saying the same thing my oldest is saying.
If you refuse to fix your relationship with your mom. You need to tell your kids they will never see her. For_______________ reason.
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