I have a friend who I feel like I am constantly force-feeding her self-esteem. It seems that none of our conversations take place without her telling me how horrible her life is and that she just has to suck it up and hold in there for another 12 years because of her boys.
She doesn't seem to really like her husband and complains about him a lot, but if you say anything that might be construed as negative about him, she rushes to his defense. She has these dreams and aspirations that she wants to do just for herself but without constant reassurance, she falls apart. She says no one gets her but me, but honestly, being her friend is so exhaustive. I don't mind patting her on the back and telling her everything will be okay or listening when all she wants to do is cry and complain, but that is all she does.
She complains that her kids don't mind. She complains about her living situation. She complains about her husband. She complains that she talentless when she faces any sort of hurdle in personal endeavors. She complains that her parents love her sister more. She complains that her sister is a spoiled baby. She complains that her other friends only like her if she behaves a certain way, believes in certain things, lives a certain way.
I just don't know how to handle the friendship anymore. I'm afraid that if I say all of these things to her, she'll just feel hurt and attacked and back out of the friendship completely. But it's gotten to the point that I avoid her because I just feel like I can't hold my tongue anymore.
How would you handle the situation?
Asked by Anonymous at 12:28 PM on Apr. 8, 2013 in Relationships
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