There's always a reason!
Parents & children frequently have different priorities & agendas, along with their different perspectives. Responsible action on the part of a parent frequently means frustration for a toddler, and sometimes along with that, a feeling of invalidation when the parent is frustrated by the response and displeased with the crying "for no reason"! That's a lot of unnecessary alienation.
Think of the difference if a parent just knows that there's always a reason, and that a little one's crying isn't personal--isn't an indictment of the parent's decisions & actions. The whole experience is easier to tolerate because of how it's viewed (and thus, how it feels.) That's a whole lot more connection & support.
That was cute to scroll through. (There's also the "broken cookie" phenomenon to consider. When a child who needs to off-load some distressing feelings will choose something safe to get VERY upset about.)
at 4:34 PM on Apr. 8, 2013