I have been living with this man for 3 yrs now. Our sex life was great at beginning but during the last 8 months or so it has dwindled to no sex and if there is any sex I am the one that initates it. He has completly stopped kissing me . I installed a keylogger on his laptop and have discovered that as soon as I leave our apartment he gets on porn sites. He deletes all history . He has been complaining to me that he has lost the ability to get an erection and thinks he should see a dr for a check-up. He says he has low testosterone he thinks. I am thinking he is only telling me this so I will not bother him for sex anymore. If he had no sex drive then I wouldnt think he would have a desire for porn. Also when I am working on wknds he has started to shave his pubic area.....why is this ? what is going on with him? Also I might add that he is 55 yrs old.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:37 PM on Apr. 9, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by fiatpax at 9:41 AM on Apr. 10, 2013
Answer by Crafty26 at 11:50 PM on Apr. 9, 2013
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Answer by PartyGalAnne at 11:47 PM on Apr. 9, 2013
Answer by PMSMom10 at 12:17 AM on Apr. 10, 2013
Porn addiction will do that do his sex drive. Look it up. There's lots of studies that find that men who get addicted to porn get so lost in the virtual sex and unreal expectations of sex that real sex no longer satisfies them. He may have started watching to try to bring it back out of panic, but now the addiction has taken over. Encourage him to see a doctor about getting on some Viagra pills and also educate him on the negative effects of watching porn. Tell him that next time he has the urge, to let you know. You may have to initiate more.
Answer by hellokittykat at 1:50 AM on Apr. 10, 2013
Answer by gdiamante at 12:34 AM on Apr. 10, 2013
"Recent behavioral addiction research suggests that the loss of libido and performance occur because heavy users are numbing their brain's normal response to pleasure...However, for men with porn-induced erectile dysfunction, the weak link is not the penis, but rather the desensitized dopamine system in the brain...In the last decade or so, addiction researchers have discovered that too much dopamine stimulation has a paradoxical effect. The brain decreases its ability to respond to dopamine signals (desensitization). This occurs with all addictions, both chemical and natural. In some porn users, the response to dopamine is dropping so low that they can't achieve an erection without constant hits of dopamine via the Internet."
Answer by hellokittykat at 1:54 AM on Apr. 10, 2013
Answer by staciandababy at 1:53 AM on Apr. 10, 2013
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