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If a teenager gets pregnant and is ridiculed for being too young to have a baby, but a sinner if she has an abortion, than what the hell should she do?

Adoption? Sure, but how do we even know if that is a better solution for the kid? The adoptive parents could be abusive or drug users.

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:52 AM on Apr. 14, 2013 in Parenting Debate

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  • Whatever is best for her and not worry about what other people think. Or not get pregnant in the first place.

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 1:57 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • Exactly, maecntpntz219. The best idea would be to avoid getting pregnant. The next best idea would be, hopefully with the help of some trusted adults, to figure out a workable plan of action, and to hell with the critics. I would also add that the adoption process probably screens out a good many of the abusers and druggies. Not all of them, for sure, but if I had to bet the odds, I'd say a baby has a better chance at an easier life with a set of adoptive parents who are ready and eager to take on a child than he or she will with a young mom who gets pregnant by surprise and is worried about what other people think of her. There are a lot of teen moms who do an amazing job with often limited resources, I'm just saying there's not a wholly valid reason to shy away from adoption because possible adoptive parents *might* be abusers or druggies.

    Answer by Ballad at 2:07 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • She should do whatever the hell she wants. It's a big decision that shouldn't be based on what other people will think.

    Answer by Hollyhock. at 2:16 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • Agree with mae, she does what is best for her and her situation, and doesn't do things based on the opinions of people that don't matter.

    Answer by AF4life at 2:35 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • Agree with the others and besides ... Ridicule never killed nobody...

    Answer by winterglow at 3:59 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • I agree teen mom right here and I did and still do just fine. If keeping this baby isn't a good option then adoption is another great choice! And if she doesn't want to do that then there's abortion. But she should decide what's best for her and skrew what everyone else thinks!!! :) do what's best for both of you.

    Answer by rachel216 at 8:47 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • She should take care of herself and surround herself with positive people.

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 9:17 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • She should do what she wants and deal with the consequences of her actions like the adult she thought she was- which may include criticism.
    As an adopted person myself, I do think that's the best option.

    Answer by momto2boys973 at 10:06 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • This is just one reason young kids and teenagers shouldn't be having sex. They just aren't mature enough to handle the consequences.

    Aside from adoption, you would have two other choices. One is abortion and if you choose that you need to live with that decision forever (really, any decision). You shouldn't let someone force you to abort (boyfriend or father of the child). If you are religious then you need to do some deep reflection on where you stand on abortion and how that impacts your faith.

    The other is having the child and raising it. This also comes with much responsibility and ensures that you have to grow up fast. It will make completing your high school education more difficult and make college a much more difficult thing the navigate. Much depends on how supportive the families are and how much they can and are willing to help with the child.

    Answer by QuinnMae at 10:27 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • Her parents should have been more open and educated her so she didn't get pregnant in the first place!

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 11:36 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

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