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If you someone hasn't seen you in several years and tells you that you look the same or haven't changed, do you take it as a compliment?

If you lost weight, I'm guessing it's a compliment.
If you've gained weight, I'm guessing it would offend you.

I was just thinking about this and how you really can't tell how some people intend it because they could mean it either way.


Asked by hellokittykat at 2:20 AM on Apr. 14, 2013 in Relationships

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  • Maybe it's just to make my life easier, but I lean towards taking something the best way it could have been intended, at least till someone proves that he or she isn't inclined to be positive or comlimentary.

    Answer by Ballad at 2:30 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • Yes, would depend on what I looked like a few years ago lol. I think in general it's a compliment, meaning you haven't aged.

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 2:28 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • Compliment. And I tell them thanks for ignoring the extra 50 pounds.

    Answer by gdiamante at 11:48 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • I usually take it as a complement!

    Answer by rachel216 at 8:53 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • Since not too much has changed, I take it as a compliment.

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 9:21 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • I would take it as a compliment! : )

    Answer by Mermaid65 at 11:16 AM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • It wouldn't bother me because I've been hearing that since I was in 6th grade. Some faces never change, whereas some people can look dramatically different

    Answer by lullaby572 at 12:39 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • If someone hasnt seen you in several years they usually remember your inner energy more than your pant size. They remember how you laugh, smile, make them feel being in your company, etc so I take it as a compliment that they see me as maintaining all those positive traits.

    Answer by Nimue930 at 1:02 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • I wouldn't associate the comment with weight as much as I would your general appearance "age wise". I would hear it more as "you haven't aged at all".

    Answer by Mom-2-3-Girlz at 2:19 PM on Apr. 14, 2013