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Would you allow your 14 yr old teenage daughter or son to have a gf or bf at this age?

Really is there an age ? at what age do you let your teenager start dating or at what point in their life do you allow them to start dating?

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mrs.MOM34

Asked by mrs.MOM34 at 6:43 PM on Apr. 14, 2013 in Teens (13-17)

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  • No!
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 6:44 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • I used to say no but per the advice here- how you gonna stop them. they are going to call someone GF/ BF at school no matter what I say.

    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 6:48 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • Our children had friends of both sexes, but they entertained them in our home where we kept a very watchful eye on the happenings. We taught our children that dating was for the purpose of selecting a life-time marriage partner, and there was no need to look until such time as they were prepared to be married. Worked well for us. And our children really enjoyed their teen and early adult years!
    NannyB.

    Answer by NannyB. at 6:50 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • I have some ten years not to worry about that, thank goodness. My thought on it, not yet having had to deal with it in reality, is that I wouldn't mind my daughter having friends who are boys, but I wouldn't let her go out somewhere alone with any of them. Maybe if a mixed group of friends all go see a movie or play video games, that might be okay. How that will work out in the real world, time will tell.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 6:53 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • Probably. But their activities together would be monitored and limited.
    maecntpntz219

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 6:59 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • When this happens you give a little and monitor a lot, there is nothing in this world like the feeling of that first love, I would not deprive my daughter of the experience but I would make a lot of limits and supervision.
    older

    Answer by older at 7:03 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • You can't really stop them- but you can monitor it and whatnot
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 7:09 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • yes i would. i know my parents couldnt stop me. thats not a fight im willing to go through. i wouldnt allow them to go anywhere alone and just bc of the way i am and i dont know what rules the other parents have my kids wouldnt be allowed to go over their bf or gfs house. but i would allow there over. kid would only be allowed in the living room.
    chrstny88

    Answer by chrstny88 at 9:27 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • them* over sorry
    kidS* sorry so many typos lol
    chrstny88

    Answer by chrstny88 at 9:42 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

  • It's the context that matters. People have feelings & may label feelings/relationships in certain ways, but your personal definition is what matters when asking/answering this question. "Having a boyfriend/girlfriend" probably looks different at different ages/stages. There's the matter of how you feel about someone, and there's the matter of what you have opportunity to do with them!

    I think it makes sense to set up a context of parental involvement & open communication with your child, along with respect. I don't think being coercive/controlling is very effective, and I think kids are most likely to behave responsibly & to make healthy decisions when they are raised (from early on!) in ways that haven't encouraged a "climate" of struggle & resistance, or opposition (covert or open.) Having recognized & honored their autonomy over time promotes responsible behavior, because it's actively developed their self-responsibility.
    girlwithC

    Answer by girlwithC at 11:38 PM on Apr. 14, 2013

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