lady that i really do not know, her kids go to the same school as mine
we chat at pickup with all the other moms
only know her first name
she hates my coat and buys me a new one
blah blah blah
i gave it back to her because i do not need a more attractive coat AND i thought she would blab to everyone that she had to give me a more attractive coat... and i thought she was unstable and she talks and talks
( i really think she has some mental issues, bipolar comes to mind- but i am not a doctor.
today, after dropping off my child, walking back to my car, she calls me over to the car she was in
she was in passanger seat as she had another mom drop off her kids at school door
because the cops are after her
she threw a rock threw her ex husbands house window his weekend
cops were at her house, and she just did not go to the door
tells me, this is not the first incident
few weeks ago her husband was talked out of getting a restraining order against her by his lawyer
looks like that restraining order will go through for sure now
and...? i do not know what else
only thing i could advise her was- talk to your lawyer and
1) offer to pay for window
2) offer to go to anger management classes or whatever therapy (she said she has not seen her therapist in a while)
3) have a neutral place for pick up and drop of their children
and i said "maybe it would get pleaded down to misdemeanor- if you go in with your lawyer and not make cops come and get you" (however if she has past 'issues' with ex that involved the police- this could have been very wrong advise from me)- however going in better than police having to come get you- right?
feel bad for her, and tried not to give legal advice, but but tried to make her call her lawyer again
would never tell anyone that knows her at all, so i thought i would tell you all
if i see her again before she gets 'picked up' by cops
...any good advice i can pass along to her?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:56 AM on Apr. 15, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:00 AM on Apr. 15, 2013
I have no advice for her but she seems a little forward for someone you are not that friendly with. So my advice to you is not to get involved at all. She seems like a loose cannon & like you said my have mental issues. She may show up at you door trying to hide or turn her anger on you. Like the "messenger always gets shot". So smile & act like you are very late for an appt. or just wave & drive by quickly. Say your cousin is ill & you gotta go or something.
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 10:03 AM on Apr. 15, 2013
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 10:04 AM on Apr. 15, 2013
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:14 AM on Apr. 15, 2013
Answer by gdiamante at 10:38 AM on Apr. 15, 2013
I think the whole coat thing was very inappropriate on her part. It was bizarre since you weren't really a regular friend. So if you kept it or returned it, it was right either way. It was nice of her but just hearing about all the other odd behavior tells me she has issues that you probably would be better off not getting involved in & perhaps was looking for a comrade in her shenanigans..
Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 10:39 AM on Apr. 15, 2013
* anyone STILL think, i should have accepted the coat with a smile
Your instinct to give it back to her was the right one.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:42 AM on Apr. 15, 2013
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