I am a recently reunited birthmother from the BSE ,my son is 36 and I am 55.
I had left contact info since his fist bday and every year since.He contacted the agency with his parent's blessings when he was 18.The agency lied to all of us.
By state law once both parties agree to contact the birthmother must give her S.S. ,D.L. then when that is cleared she must undergo 6 hrs of very ,very intrusive counseling and get a psychiatric clearance all to have agency moderated , NO I.D.,written in format the agency can alter emails be exchanged.He had to have an hour of counseling.Both his and my counseling emphasized the negative aspects of reunion.
By state law a birthmother receives 2 hours of counseling.Very little mention of any negative aspects.There is a very new birthmother in my IRL triad group.This is how she describes her counseling.
A woman wanting to be a surrogate must undergo extensive therapy and a psychiatric clearance.The counseling tends to emphasize the negative aspects of giving the child up.
I know a woman that is becoming a surrogate and this is how she describes her therapy.
Why such differences in the amount and type of therapy for a woman placing a child for adoption and a woman being a surrogate?
Why such a difference in the counseling required to place a child for adoption and the counseling required to exchange emails and possibly meet an adult child?
What is your opinion?
We managed to break free from the agency after 7 months .Our reunion is going great We met Dec 28,2012 and he came this way in Feb and we go there in June or July.It is going well : )
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