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Your thoughts if teacher told your child this

i was a parent on a field trip today to the domes (a garden field trip)
daughter is in 2nd year of kindergarten (she is six this Summer)
i was in charge of five kids
kids were fine
last 30 minutes, my daughter was getting "squirrely"
and she was over simulated (a.k.a.... sensory autism overload)
(she is in autism spectrum)

teacher told my daughter in front of me.....
" remember what i told you, if you can not behave, mom will not be able to come on any more field trips, or come to school (to do parent volunteer things) and be in the classroom"

i do not have problem with teacher trying to correct behavoir, or using taking something away for unwanted behavior
i feel like teacher should have used another "currency" like free play time, or you will go on yellow (they have green light, yellow light, red light system at school)...but NOT use 'mom time' as currency
threatening to not let mom be a parent at field trips or school me was not ok
daughter already has issues with daddy not being around, so threatening to take away mom time contingent on her actions... to me, just not good currency

your thoughts?

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Asked by fiatpax at 3:31 PM on Apr. 17, 2013 in

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Answers (27)
  • I think it was a bad thing to use/say
    I agree with you

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 3:34 PM on Apr. 17, 2013

  • Yeah, you shouldn't have been mentioned. It should've been no recess or yellow. Red, yellow & green are used at my kid's school too. The teacher can't dictate if you go on trips or not.

    Answer by 3libras at 3:35 PM on Apr. 17, 2013

  • I would have a little talk with the teacher about that after school. That was uncalled for.

    Answer by louise2 at 3:36 PM on Apr. 17, 2013

  • like the twat has the authority to ban you from the school- ugh.

    Answer by feralxat at 3:36 PM on Apr. 17, 2013

  • I agree, that's not something she should be threatening her with. There are other ways to handle it.

    Answer by bandgeek521 at 3:38 PM on Apr. 17, 2013

  • Yeah, you need to be having a talk with that teacher. She can take recess or free time away, but she can't use you as a punishment. That is just crap.

    Answer by kmath at 3:39 PM on Apr. 17, 2013

  • Over the line

    Answer by NotPanicking at 3:43 PM on Apr. 17, 2013

  • That was BS. What was she thinking?!

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 3:44 PM on Apr. 17, 2013

  • She is picking on what your daughter cherishes the most, YOU, in a child's mind this can be detrimental so using you as a pawn to correct this behavior was way over the line...


    Answer by older at 3:59 PM on Apr. 17, 2013

  • WTF, I would address this to the principle.

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 4:01 PM on Apr. 17, 2013

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