My fiance and I got engaged in December. Planning our wedding (it'll be next September) has already been insane. Initially we were looking at about 150 guests - mostly my family, which is HUGE. When we started looking at venues, we realized that even if we found a place with a decent base cost, we'd be going out of our budget just to feed all of our guests! If finances were easier for us, we'd probably go for the $20,000+ wedding we'd be looking at for the place we loved... but we have other things pulling at our bank accounts. We're looking at buying a house either this year or next year, getting a "new" car, and potentially taking my ex to court to even out our time with my son - all within the next two years. So the "dream" wedding is ultimately out of the question.
So we've cut our guest list down to either 70 (without the parts of my fiance's family that he can't stand) or 114 with his family included. His mom says his family will be generous and they usually give money as wedding presents, so I think we should invite them even though he is not a fan of his dad's side of the family.
Then we started thinking about the option of just taking our parents, my sisters - LOCAL family and having an extremely small wedding without all the bells and whistles, and perhaps just hosting a reception later. I'm not an extremely girly-girl, and I haven't been dreaming of my wedding day my whole life and all of that... but I still think I would regret not having the people I love all there with me, someday down the line.
Anyway, not really looking for advice here...
Just curious how big your weddings were. How many guests, approximate budget, etc.
Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 11:49 PM on Apr. 17, 2013
For the wedding, it was just him, me, the minister, and a photographer. At the reception, there were about 20 family members.
Answer by JeremysMom at 9:31 PM on Apr. 17, 2013
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Answer by charlotsomtimes at 9:31 PM on Apr. 17, 2013
Hubby's family is huge- so we had about 200-250 people. We had 8 in the bridal party. (plus my boys as ring bearers & my half sis as my flower girl) My dad & my Gpa gave me away. A friend of the family helped with pics, my sil gave the cake as a wedding gift. We did cut some corners, & got some good deals too. But it was also 15 yrs ago, so I'm sure prices have gone up in that time. That seems like an awful lot of money for just 1 day, when it could go for a down payment on a house. I bet you could cut that budget in half, at least. Shop around & look for deals. GL :)
Answer by mrsmom110 at 9:31 PM on Apr. 17, 2013
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