So the story is, I told my preschooler and my teenage stepson yesterday they couldn't take their dad's dragon kite out to fly unless he was with them. It's his kite, the kids didn't have permission from him to fly it, and I didn't want them to lose it while he wasn't there. Well, they told me they were taking my daughter's Princess Barbie kite out, so I let them go. When they came back, my daughter--who tends to rat herself out when she does stuff--said they had fun with the dragon kite. My stepson tried to shush her up and then said, "No, you mean the Barbie kite." She said no, they'd taken the dragon kite, which he then admitted to.
Needless to say, I was livid. Partly because they directly did what I said not to do, but mostly because my stepson tried to cover it up and get my daughter to lie to me.
The problem comes in because just as I was explaining why I was angry, my boyfriend waltzed in from work. When he heard what the fuss was about, he said, "Oh, I don't care. They can take the dragon kite out. Kites are for flying." And then he took us all out to dinner, which had hinged on whether the kids behaved that day.
So then my stepson acted like the whole thing was over with because his dad didn't care that he'd flown the kite, and my boyfriend said I might as well drop it and not make a big deal out of it. But my point is, they still disobeyed me and then my stepson still tried to cover it up.
What would you do now? Sorry for the family drama questions, but this stepmom thing can be tricky even after five and a half years, and really the intentional misbehaving is fairly new with my fiveyear-old because lately, she understands more about deception and deliberately doing things, where in the toddler years, it was more a lack of self-control like with all younger kids.
Answer by girlwithC at 10:21 PM on Apr. 21, 2013
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Answer by butterflyblue19 at 4:05 PM on Apr. 21, 2013
You and your SO need to be on the same page with discipline. He can't tell you one thing and then change his mind. Make you look like a fool. don't be mad at the kids. Be mad at him/SO. If he will not change the way he is disaplining the kids basicly the SS. I think you need to inform him you will not disapline him any more. Just your child will be. I think you need to stop letting your child go places with the SS. That will stop your child from getting in trouble.
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