I have a serious problem with my mother and my husband to be. He and I have known each other since we were in elementary school. WE have gotten in some trouble as children and young adults when we were at school, but we have grown from that now. She still holds him accountable for his past mistakes with school and myself. Now that I'm planning to marry this guy, she tells me that she refuses to come if he is the groom. I really want her at my wedding but I'm not sure how to get through to her. She really hates him, and holds grudges for very long times......... I just want peace the week of my wedding and other functions.. How can I make that happen, I really want her there to support me.Answer Question
Answer by LostSoul88 at 10:30 AM on Apr. 23, 2013
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:37 AM on Apr. 23, 2013
Talk to her that explain to her that this time you get to choose who you want to spend the rest of your life with and that her refusing to be there would be a big heart break for you because it is going to happen anyway....ask her to make this transition easy for you not a hurtful experience, ask her to share in your happiness and that holding a grudge is toxic not only for her but for everyone around her. Tell her again what it would mean to have her at the wedding tell her you love her and want her there but not to cause friction or pain, but to witness an event that means the world to you.....reach out for the mother in her, and explain that her attitude will only create a wedge between you two and grandchildren as well...ask her if this is what she wants????hoped I have helped, but really communicating like adults sometimes makes all the difference...good luck and best to you at your wedding.
Answer by older at 10:38 AM on Apr. 23, 2013
Answer by ohwrite at 10:38 AM on Apr. 23, 2013
Answer by charlotsomtimes at 10:41 AM on Apr. 23, 2013
Answer by Dardenella at 10:44 AM on Apr. 23, 2013
Answer by winterglow at 11:54 AM on Apr. 23, 2013
How old are you both? Maybe she doesn't want you to waste your youth with this guy. She's been around a lot longer than you & has a lot more life experience. I wish that my Mother would have taken the initiative to steer me in the right direction. But I guess you have to live & learn on your own. It's just a shame how some things in life can be prevented if we had just listened. I wonder if you are marrying this guy just to spite her.
Answer by Anonymous at 11:59 AM on Apr. 23, 2013
Answer by ThatBoysMom at 12:24 PM on Apr. 23, 2013
Answer by virginiamama71 at 12:42 PM on Apr. 23, 2013
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