That makes NO sense to me. It sounds like they are not acknowledging how important it is to make the right decision. If that were the case, why bother to even think hard about important matters? You could just flip a coin if ANY decision you make is "right." I know that folks say that to be comforting, but, does that really help?
Many moms who have placed babies for adoption may not believe that they did make the right decision. Better advice is to educate yourself thoroughly, get counseling, talk to others who have walked in your path. Otherwise, you might make a decision that is NOT right for you.
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Answer by AllAboutKeeley at 5:34 AM on Feb. 17, 2009
Because it is right for them in that moment. I have seen many of your posts and find them discouraging towards adoptive parents and birth parents who are considering placing their children with an adoptive family. I find you negative, misinformed, and using your experiences and personal feelings to derail others. How irresponsible and selfish of you. To believe that your feelings are the only ones that count and matter is arrogant to say the least. Continuously you rant about adoption being so horrible. Not all birth mothers regret their decision to place a child outside of their immediate family. So it is the right choice for the person who decides to raise or to not raise their child.
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Answer by Anonymous at 10:32 AM on Feb. 17, 2009
It seems people have a notion that you just magically "KNOW" what's right.
They forget the important facts gathering process to making an educated decision comes before deciding if it's a right/good choice or not. Is there any decision we make in our lives where it is wise to decide blindly and without gathering facts?
Since they forget about facts, they're probably thinking emotionally instead. They don't want to 'hurt' other persons feelings.
No, this approach doesn't really help a person at a crossroads. Often people will voice their opinion/advice after it's too late. What good is it then?
If the person is asking your opinion, they're obviously unsure. Help them be sure by researching with them and find factual/historical info ahead of time.
Answer by JoesGirl at 10:47 AM on Feb. 17, 2009
Anonymous, other than Adoption Therapists who have studied adoption and written thesis on Adoption, Southernroots is the most educated person about adoption I know. She has been published several times on Adoption.com and belongs to the American Adoption Congress. To say that she is misinformed is plain ignorant. She is not anti-adoption, she is pro-adoption reform and pro-parenting. You accuse her of using her own experiences to "derail" others is also ignorant. She has had a good adoption experience and is reunited with her son who had a good adoptive family whom Southernroots is friends with.
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Answer by JoesGirl at 10:56 AM on Feb. 17, 2009
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