First- a little backstory:
My son is 18, going to graduate HS next month.
Last year we caught with "synthetic pot", had a big fight, he's going to clean up his act, etc.
This February we caught him with actual pot, found out he was robotripping (abusing cough syrup), molly, ecstasy, acid....
I went full on intervention on the kid. Took phone and laptop, cleaned out his room, I even contacted a few of his friends and told them I have screenshots of their texts regarding sale/use of drugs with my son, and if they contact him again, I'll call the cops.
Again, he said he's going to clean up his act, focus on graduation and college (he's still on honor roll thru all this!) I cannot force him to apply to schools, I can't forcibly enlist him in the military, I am so concerned for his future! He tests on the advanced level for Math & Science. The Air Force would love to have him, but he has to pass a DRUG TEST FIRST!! DUH!
Tomorrow is Prom. I got a call from the school at 2:00 telling me that because he was late for school today, and didn't have a Dr.'s note, he was not eligible to attend prom. I called him, he was with his dad. Told him what I heard from school, and told him to put his dad on the phone. His dad says, well call the Dr, and get him a note. I said "He stayed at your house last night, and didn't go to school, YOU get him the note!" Dad says "He wasn't here..."
Little shit stayed out all night with one of his pot smoking friends. ( I have no proof that he did any drugs last night, I just know where he stayed. If I had proof at this point it would be straight to rehab. I have warned hm that I will NOT fuck around, and will not tolerate drug use. This will be his third strike and he will be OUT!!)
I am trying to teach this child that there are consequences for his actions. No prom. He has to call his date and explain to her/her parents that he can't take her. I spent $200 on his tux and flowers for NOTHING. I am BROKE this week over this stupid prom.
Trying to teach him that his behavior not only effects him, but me, my DH, his dad and his wife, their kids, and now his date, her family, etc.....
I get a text 20 minutes later. "Dad called the doctor- they are faxing a note to the school so I can go."
He is also scheduled to race tonight. Of course he is a kid- he pays for none of this. His dad does.
I called his dad and said "I hope to god you are not letting him drive that car tonight. I'd make him take a piss test before he goes anywhere."
My ex says "I'm not getting into this with you." And hung up on me.
How can I possibly discipline my son when his dad lets him do what ever he wants!?!?
I am so furious. Yes, at my kid for his stupid decisions, but more at his father for steam rolling me!
Now the weird part of this is that my ex and I only live a block away from each other. We're both remarried, etc, and get along well otherwise. Part of me thinks I should throw my kid out, send him up there, and let his dad handle things and be the parent for a change, instead of the "good time dad". But I feel it's more of a punishment against my ex than my son. I'm very angry right now (this happened about 2 hours ago) and I don't want to make any decisions in haste. I feel like my hands are tied!
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