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4 years ago in 2009 the dept of children and families had a case open on our family after my ex husband shook our 4 month old baby. they closed the case when i too the kids, left the state we were living in together and moved back in with my parents.
for 2 years i believed he was innocent (he had a nice story wrapped in a pretty little bow) and i fought on his side to keep him out of jail. because of me he was able to get off with 10 years of probation but he was CONVICTED (not charged) with assault, battery and child cruelty.
shortly after this, he moved back in the home with us and his anger problems started to resurface. he was going back and forth between living here and his moms because having a family was "too hard" for him. he eventually came clean and told me he really did do what he was accused of.
i kicked him out for good, got a job, and when i had the money filed for divorce. this was last year. now we are getting to the point of pretrial in our divorce. ive had to drop my lawyer because of financial issues. his family is still paying for his. he and his lawyer presented me with a parenting plan that would allow him to eventually have unsupervised visitation with the children, like sometime this year. hes not a changed man because he still puts them last, which he proves every week when he shows up at my house purposely late to stick it to me. i supervise the visits for now in my own home. for a brief period i was allowing his mother to supervise but i found out that she let the children go with him and only his sister somewhere in a car, she was not present. ever since they have not returned to his house, or out of my sight whenever he's around.
now hes saying he will fight tooth and nail to get unsupervised visitation, or any visitation away from me. i keep telling him my plan (which is sundays only, supervised, in my home or my parents' home) is reasonable for a man that shook a baby. he claims he isnt the same man but he hasnt gone through any psychological testing to prove it.
back to DCF. do you think if i call them and tell them what's going on, they can atleast write a recommendation for me to present in court? i want to ask them to re open the case but i dont know if they will especially since were all living in a different state than where the original incident with my daughter occured. do they only back up families when there is imminent danger? i need help! sorry this is so long.
Asked by Anonymous at 4:03 PM on Apr. 28, 2013 in Relationships
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