I have been with my husband since I was 18 (15yrs). We r best friends and have to young children. But I feel like we always argue and there are some things see very differently. I love him a lot but there is no more passion on my end. I just don't feel the same way I did. I feel that our lives have grown apart ( he works a lot and I run the house, take care of the kids and am a full time student). I feel as if we r great parents and gret friends but I have more spark for him. Because we have been together for so long our lives are entwined in every way.
So do I try to make it work although I feel so in need of passion and don't feel as if it is something that will just come back.
We are very good at talking to each other and I basically told him how I was feeling and he was great about listening. But where do we go from here. He says he loves me and is still passionate and attracted to me. It hurts me so bad that I can't reciprocate, he deserves that. He also says he can't imagine life without me.
Now that I talked to him, he is going out of his way to be extra loving, but that isn't the problem and I feel smothered.
I can't sleep and have no appetite. I don't want this to effect our children. HELP!
Asked by Anonymous at 8:37 PM on Apr. 29, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by tntmom1027 at 9:03 PM on Apr. 29, 2013
Maybe your need marriage counseling. It's not unusual to feel worn down and like you don't have much left for your partner, and them not stepping up in some way for you just compounds the issue. Remind each other why you fell in love with each other to begin with. Nurture your marriage like it is one of your children, devoting time and attention to it. If things still don't work out then you at least know you have made every effort to try to bring back some passion.
Answer by QuinnMae at 9:49 PM on Apr. 29, 2013
Answer by PartyGalAnne at 10:32 PM on Apr. 29, 2013