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My son is in Kindergarten. My daughter is just 3 years old. Through school, my son plays with other kids.
There is a child (age 8, 2nd grade) that wants to come over. However, she doesn't seem to be interested in playing with my kids. She wants to know everything that I am doing.
When she knows that my son is grounded, she tries everything to stay at my house. Also, once she leaves, she'll come back 3x the same day again. I have been trying to avoid her, but there's only so much I can do.
She wants to come over in the morning so that I can take her to school. She tries to convince the teachers to let her walk my son home from school. She wants to come over and eat with us.
I have talked with her grandmother that takes care of her. Her mother is in jail due to drugs. She has a sister and a brother that stays with her and her grandmother.
Should I talk to her grandmother about this or should I try to keep avoiding her?
Answer by ohwrite at 11:53 AM on May. 2, 2013
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Answer by maecntpntz219 at 12:01 PM on May. 2, 2013
Does she want to be 'friends' with you or is she looking for a positive role model? Maybe making a more structured schedule at home will either deter her from trying to spend more time at your house, or maybe it will help her focus her energy on other positive things. Make 3-4:30 reading / quiet time at your house. Try to get the kids to either read, look at books or maybe color in coloring books. If she has homework maybe she can bring that over to your house to do. Of course, if you just don't have the energy or emotional capability to have her over so much, then talk to her grandmother. A talk with her might give you a little more insight as to why she craves your attention.
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