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My husband smokes weed, and not for medical purposes..it's a recreational thing. A lot of people don't see anything wrong with weed, but father-in-law does not like it or accept it. My opinion on weed is it's fine for medical or social use, but I think my husband is "self-medicating" because he is so very irritable when he is not high and it's sad to say that he only seems happy when he is high. I know he gets high, but have not said anything because I don't know...I'd rather him be happy than to have him be irritable, if that makes sense. My father-in-law picked up our daughter from school and took her to buy some ice cream. When he dropped her off at home, he found my husband's stash of containers he uses and was so upset (more like disappointed). My husband has managed to stay clean with the help of counseling to cope with his feelings for about 2yrs but started all over again (he stopped counseling in 2011). My father-in-law told me he was going to talk to him because he knows how my husband gets when he is high - over a period of time, my husband turns into a complete lazy person and will not even throw away trash from the night before and wastes ridiculous amount of money on buying more weed. At first when he told me, I was kinda happy because I do not want my husband to rely on a substance to be happy. I don't like the unpredictable mood swings especially with our daughter. Then the co-dependent side comes out and is afraid of the having him get off weed because he is so nice and loving when he is high, but then I think that's not really him...that's the bud. So who really is he? Ugh, please need some advice.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:05 PM on May. 3, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by m-avi at 3:07 PM on May. 3, 2013
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Answer by Anonymous at 3:27 PM on May. 3, 2013
Would you rather he be under pharmaceutical pill to help him with his issues? would a legal drug be any better? or maybe him turning to alcohol? really I think out of all the drugs out there this is the safest one....let him indulge and ask him not to make this a priority, but to use it socially or occasionally like you would a drink...I think he is what and who he is regardless of his use, this does not make an un lazy person lazy or a spender spend less.....you are atributing his character flaws to his use when it reality they belong to him...
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