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I never grew up with my father. My parents divorced well before I could remember. I have very few memories of him. Actually - just 2. One when I was 12 and saw him for a few minutes, and the last time I talked to him on the phone when I was 14. Other than that, absolutely nothing.
I am 26 years old with a life & child of my own. I don't have any issues with my father. I know he was a fireman and also had an addiction to crack. But I'm not bitter or looking for anything in particular. My mother never talked about him; everything was either a secret or really awkward.
He has several other children. He has my brother & me listed as his children plus his other kids. My brother doesn't have a Facebook & I go by my middle name, so I don't think he would find me if he searched. However, he has a lot of people with our last name as friends - I think he adds random people with the same last name b/c there's a girl I went to school with on there & there's no relation at all. Maybe he was looking for me - kinda creepy & weird coincidence. Some of his other kids listed underneath his family have Facebook pages, but aren't on his friends list. It's like they have nothing to do with him either. I've only talked to one of the girls, but this was years ago when she was 17. I think one of them has their profiles block from me because one of the sisters looks like she's having a conversation with someone underneath pic comments, but I cannot see the comments the person she's having a conversation with. It's just very odd that someone I don't even know would block me from seeing their profile & comments. Or maybe it's just a Facebook security setting...idk.
Anyway - part of me thinks that he doesn't deserve me talking to him. The other part of me says that all I know is what very little my mother has told me. I'm just very curious. Would he respond? Would it be weird? And another part of me is just bored & I'd like to stir up the pot & make my life more interesting. What would you do?
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