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I met this man. In about his mid 20's. I'm around the same age. He came at me, wanted to take me out and was persistent. I didn't let him at first, then I agreed to one date. The date wasn't as horrific as I imagined. We both enjoyed our conversation and he asked me for another date. We were in pubic, we also did other things like swimming, bike riding, and even went to the bar. His friends got to know me a bit and caught on that we were sort of something. We never exactly defined the relationship, but he things just spontaneously fell together. He'd call me every couple of hours, we'd text, and we saw each other at least every other day for 2 weeks. In his past, he's obviously had sex. We didn't, due to the fact that it was way too early, I honestly wanted to be something serious before I fool around! Anyways, his ex girlfriend slowly found out. She went ballistic on him. His sister had died a few years ago and she apparently was always there for him. Now she was the one who needed help, and he felt the need to be there for her. Was I understanding about this? Yes, a shoulder to lean on was fine. But that wasn't just what she wanted. She didn't want him to speak to me anymore and her problems began to include me. I simply told him I understand she needs you and you want to be there but I don't understand the reason she threatens him about being with me. Trying to pick up a bunch of dirt to my name and feeding him false information was the point when I snapped. I simply said as long as she's in your life, I don't think it's best if I am because I don't have the time to deal with this. I simply said we were friends, I enjoyed your company, and I can't continue this sort of relationship with a crazy ex! He explained how he was on his way to her house to calm her down and explain that I'm a great young woman but I told him to save it! A week later, I cooled down and called. He answered. And told me he was trying to work things back out with her. A punch to my face? Yeah, you could say so! I simply said goodbye and never contacted him again. Less than a month later, I was at the bar for my best friends birthday. Surely there he was. With her? No. She wasn't in sight. He was flirting and talking to a couple other females though. Did he see me? Yeah. Did we talk? No.
I'm confused. What happened? What should I do? Is there anything I could say? I don't see the reason he kicked me out of his life if doesn't have anyone? I don't think he is cheating on his old girlfriend because he knows she would find out, being the crazy person that she is? What do you think his feelings were when he saw me?
I know any of you don't have the exact answers, but if someone could please analyze, maybe I could get over this crazy phase. I'm hurt. We were very open with each other and I could tell by the passionate kisses and all the time we spend together doing aimless things, we had fun.
HELP! Please and thanks!
Ps. He always went out of his way to pay for me. Was always respectful of my needs. And even opened up to a bunch of secrets. How do you just kick someone like that out of your life? Weird how he can talk to a bunch of new girls but not me after I know he was staring me down like a hawk?Answer Question
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