I am 16 going on 17 and pregnant. Due at the end of this month. I love my parents and respect their decisions but this one, idk. Long story short. Me and baby daddy caused trouble, I was forced to move or go to juvie and lose my baby, break up with him, etc. While I was gone we didn't last anyways and it had caused trouble cuz rumor had it I was tryna keep him away from our baby. Not true but it still took affect and it got worse when his mom and my parents stepped in. Now I am not allowed to be anywhere near him and my parents choice is he can't even come around either. Now that I am about to have his son he really wants to be there but my parents won't let him and not only that force child support. Sad to say but my little sister has a daughter now and she was in thw same position but never did they give her the mess they are giving me. Should I interfere and fight against their decisions or let it be???
Asked by Anonymous at 2:43 PM on May. 6, 2013 in Parenting Debate
They will have no say is whether he is around the baby or not. That will be up to the courts. Unless it can be proved that he is a danger to the baby, they will not bar him from seeing the child. The hospital should respect your choice of who you want in the room, however if you are leaving the hospital to go back to live with your parents then you can expect to have consequences from your decision (not that it's right, but it is what it is). The courts will determine child support and custody / visitation will be figured out in a separate order (meaning even if he doesn't pay CS, he will not lose visitation).
As for comparing your sister's situation to yours, you are not the same people so don't expect the same results.
Answer by QuinnMae at 2:48 PM on May. 6, 2013
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Answer by older at 3:19 PM on May. 6, 2013
Listen to your parents, you will appreciate it in the long run, and in all honesty, it sounds like they will be there for the long haul and he will not be.
Answer by amazinggrace83 at 3:22 PM on May. 6, 2013
Your parents have been & will be there for you & love you like no other. If this kid wants to have his parental rights established, it will have to be done legally. I'm betting b/c of his age & maturity level & issues you've already, you will be on here in months to come saying how he's a deadbeat dad. I hope for the child's sake he proves me wrong on that one! GL
Answer by mrsmom110 at 5:09 PM on May. 6, 2013
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