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I see a lot of posts on here asking questions about how people would react if their children did hideous things... like molest a younger child, detonate a bomb, ask for an abortion, and all sorts of things in the spectrum of upsetting. As a mother of young children I have to imagine that I would forgive my child for anything, try to help support them and guide them - but at the same time there is a transition from childhood where guidance and support is no longer an appropriate reaction. The Boston marathon bomber, the young man who shot up that movie theater, the sandy hook shooter - these young men all had mothers. I'm not asking you how you'd feel or react or whether or not you'd be able to forgive because none of us know how we would feel unless it happened. :-( The question I have is at what point do we stop feeling personally responsible for our children's independent actions? When do we consider them socially mature enough to be held fully accountable for mature decision making?? - like the aforementioned heinous crimes (not saying abortion is a heinous crime because that's another can of worms, but it's still in the spectrum of morally questionable to say the least).
What are your thoughts. If you'd forgive your child, would it be at any age? Or would you be more likely to forgive a misguided mistake of an 11 year old vs. a 21 year old? (for an example)
Answer by LostSoul88 at 1:31 PM on May. 7, 2013
Once you give birth, you are the Mom forever. I don't think you ever stop trying & helping as much as you can. BUT! I believe people who commit heinous crimes Parents dropped the ball somewhere along the way. Either through lack of guidance or by doing illegal things themselves.
BTW, I don't think abortion has anything in common with what these Men did at all.
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