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My cousin M just got out of an extremely abusive relationship. The abuser was her BF's dad. This guy is psychotic.
I'll give you a little background. My aunt found a guy when M and L (her daughters) were 12 and 9. She chose the guy over her kids,and told M if she didn't like it,she could get the fuck out of her house. M ran to her friend's house (the guy who later became her BF),and my aunt let her leave.
This dad saw an opportunity to take advantage. Over the years he used his position to get her to do his bidding while making her feel worthless,telling her no one loved her but them. A few years back,he somehow got her to have sex with him. What I consider rape. He has stalked her,called her tens of times a day to ask her where she is,who she's with, and accusing her of cheating on her BF.
Through all this,her BF went right along with it,backed up his father's actions.
She came over last night and told me about the fight they had before they broke up. She confronted him about his part in the abuse,and he told her that she needed to accept that she had a part in it,that she deserved to be treated that way. I was speechless. Where do these men come from?? Is there a class they can take on how to make a woman feel like shit?
The poor girl has been brainwashed by these bastards. Nothing we ever said phased her. We told her we were so sad for her situation,and were here for her,but we were left helpless.
She's going to need quite a bit of counseling to get healthy again.
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