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Is it appropriate to give 9 year old twin girls one big present (ie a nice board game) instead of two smaller presents?

Daughter is invited to a birthday party for twin 9 yr old girls from her class.

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mardigras11

Asked by mardigras11 at 11:40 AM on May. 8, 2013 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • A board game sounds perfect. They can play together and you don't have to spend money on two separate gifts.
    anestheticsex

    Answer by anestheticsex at 11:42 AM on May. 8, 2013

  • I don't see why not. It gets expensive when two birthdays are celebrated at the same time, twins don't really have a choice, but I would think one nice gift that they can share would be a good choice.
    ohwrite

    Answer by ohwrite at 11:47 AM on May. 8, 2013

  • I'm thinking a really nice family game. One that I would ordinary think cost too much for a one classmate birthday!
    mardigras11

    Comment by mardigras11 (original poster) at 11:58 AM on May. 8, 2013

  • Coming from knowing someone with twins she says how they're always trying to be different from the other... I understand the cost involved, and that they should be thankful they're getting something, but it is their birthday. The one day they want it to be about them individually. I would get them each something different. Maybe ask your daughter what each of them likes, so they each feel special...
    MrsLeftlane

    Answer by MrsLeftlane at 12:15 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • MM I would get two separate gifts personally, just because they have probably been getting a "shared" toy for years from people thinking the exact same thing. I would get them two individual gifts, especially if your daughter knows enough about them to know different likes. At this age, I think they are all about individuality. JMO.
    cassie_kellison

    Answer by cassie_kellison at 12:15 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • How would you feel if someone gave you a gift but told you that you had to share it?
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 12:26 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • I know, I am torn. Feel both ways. I remember getting "like" presents with my sister as a child. PFT! Don't know which way to go!!!!

    mardigras11

    Comment by mardigras11 (original poster) at 12:57 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • Not sure how much you're wanting to spend, but you could do something they can use separately to their own tastes, like giftcards to the movie theater, enough to cover admission for 2 kids, so they have the option - go together twice, or each go with a friend to see a different movie.
    NotPanicking

    Answer by NotPanicking at 1:10 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • I think it varies with the kids. Asking the parents might be a good idea. I know one family where the parents prefers that the twins receive gifts together, but I can also see where the kids would hate it and want their own separate things. artly it depends on their interests. If you can find something both of them are truly interested in, one gift might work. But if one is all about fashion and the other is into animals, for example, a joint gift would flop.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 1:35 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • Even though they are twins. They are two sepeate people. Two seperate gifts.IMO
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 2:07 PM on May. 8, 2013

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