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What do you consider cheating?

Yesterday my husband left his phone at home by accident. For some reason I snooped, I found inappropriate messages between him & another chick (who is married) we know and hang out with. He says that nothing more happened. To me that is more than enough, I consider it cheating.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 3:07 PM on May. 8, 2013 in Relationships

Answers (15)
  • texting as cheating...no but i'd be pissed and not very trusting depending on the content of the texts. if he kidded her, slept with her, etc yeah i'd be gone
    josiesmommy00

    Answer by josiesmommy00 at 3:08 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • Anything you wouldn't do with your spouse standing right there/reading it
    butterflyblue19

    Answer by butterflyblue19 at 3:10 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • I would message her through his phone & tell her to stay away from your DH. Tell her Do Not contact him ever again or you are going to show her DH these messages. Then keep him on a short leash. GL!
    ILovemyPaulie

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 3:11 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • It's cheating and I wouldn't believe him that nothing happened.
    LostSoul88

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 3:11 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • If someone has to snoop on their spouse than they know they are up to something wrong.
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 3:13 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • What butterfly said. If you wouldn't do it with them there, then don't do it.
    amazinggrace83

    Answer by amazinggrace83 at 3:14 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • I wouldn't say it a cheating exactly, but would Be Beyond Pissed. To me texting is like a gateway to cheating. And agree with BlueButterfly
    cassie_kellison

    Answer by cassie_kellison at 3:28 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • It doesn't matter what any of us consider cheating. If you feel violated, you need to figure out what you want to do because it will erode your relationship if it is left unresolved.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 3:32 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • If he wouldn't do it or say it in front of you, it is cheating.
    The minute you find your self deleting or hiding conversations, it's cheating.
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 3:32 PM on May. 8, 2013

  • he was not honest about the way he is with this woman (the texting)
    so believing him now would be close to impossible

    hugs
    cheating husbands suck
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:44 PM on May. 8, 2013

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