So, to put it lightly, my (step) daughter's bio mom and I have butted heads a few times in the past. Since I'm telling this tale from my perspective, I am going to go ahead and tell you that as far as I'm concerned I've been in the right on most of the issues - or at least I have tried my damnest to. At any rate bio mom acts nutter butters all the time and I'm usually the target of her rage. The thing is that every few months or so she makes a big to do about apologizing, telling me how wrong she was and how right I was and how very very sorry she is. The first time it happened I apologized as well and told her how much I appreciated her being brave enough to say that to me... but then she went nutter butters again for a few months and started the cycle all over again with a huge revelation and heartfelt apology. It's now been going on for years and I'm totally over any personal issues that I had with the woman but she keeps doing kinda messed up things that negatively impact my daughter. I don't speak out about it but it's really upsetting. Today she started texting me again about how sorry she is, and honestly I couldn't care less. I mean, I just don't care anymore as bad as that is. It doesn't mean anything to me. I don't want to be rude because I work VERY hard to be as nice to her as humanly possible. I haven't said a foul word to her since my husband and I got married and I go WAY above and beyond in order to try and forge a relationship because it seems like that's what's best for my little girl (and though sucking up to this woman is not my favorite pass time I'd do ANYTHING for my daughter). I just don't know what to do, honestly I don't even notice the personal attacks on me anymore so as she's apologizing it's for things I didn't even really notice (I'm so used to it). I want to be respectful and gracious for her effort but it feels like it's another pile of cheap words to alleviate her heavy conscience. I wouldn't mind affording her to lift that burden but I almost feel like she's looking for validation like it's okay to just move on as if nothing has happened, which is fine in our personal relationship but it's really not acceptable to keep on keeping on as a crappy mother. I don't know if I'll respond at all but my husband said she's asking if I got her texts. I totally don't want to be rude but I don't want her to think she has my blessing to keep being so selfish and ignorant when it comes to her relationship with my (step) daughter.Answer Question
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