So, my 12 yr old son just confessed to having a crush on the daughter of a friend of mine. Said daughter has had a crush on him since before he realized girls weren't just boys with long hair. lol Because of her crush, I've made sure that they are always within eye sight when together.
So, now that he confessed this, he suddenly asks when he'll be allowed to date. Now, to be fair, I had not yet given a ton of thought to when I would allow him to date - his interest in girls hadn't seemed very strong, and regardless, I knew that at any rate, he wouldn't be dating at 12 or 13.
When he asked, I thought for a brief moment, and said that although I couldn't say for sure, it would probably be about 16. Note that I said probably, and I made sure he noted that. I explained that I haven't done a ton of thinking on this, and that his maturity level and other things may change that, in either direction.
He claims that others are allowed to date at 14, and thinks I'm not too fair. I think I'm not the other kids mother and can't control what they do. At the same time, I also don't want him to really be the oddball ifi am being unreasonable.
So, what is your opinion? Is 16 a reasonable age to start dating? Or am I being unfair and making him wait way longer than typical? (and again, he is only 12!)
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