To make a long story short, my adult child has some big issues and has irrational fears...driving is one of them and right now needs to go up to college (short drive/ a few miles/straight line) to check out of dorm. I offered the car to go do this, but was met with "you know how anxious I get about driving". My DH and I think maybe it's best to have our child make the effort to just do it to face the fear and make a little progress...since there are some places that seem to be ok for her to take the car in the past...(and needs a summer job and own transportation). We will have a car for her shortly. She's been out with a friend and on a few dates in the past week.....they drive.
She has other bigger issues... has not yet finished classes..late on all of them and will withdraw from one. Did take one final. Needs to make up papers/take another final late, and repeat an entire class over the summer.
2 weeks ago cut "failure" into her arm after coming home and episodes of cutting for the past month while living on campus/not going to class. Has a hard time with emotions. Fun stuff, but we are helping her get help. We get to stand back watch the show...therapist rec'd we "detach" a bit here without being uncaring...this is hard.
Sigh...therapy today for her. But the car thing...would you encourage the short drive or be a taxi??
Asked by Anonymous at 8:07 AM on May. 10, 2013 in Adult Children (18+)
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