I met my DH when SD was a year old we married and I adopted her at 3. The mother was never really involved she was a drug addict she saw her maybe twice after she left and SD is now 8. She keeps calling DH asking if she can see SD we both told her no she is no longer legally SD's mother and she is still doing drugs I really don't want her in and out of SD's life opinions?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:13 AM on May. 13, 2013 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
If she is still doing drugs I completely agree with the answer of NO. I would also make sure to be very adamant with the school about who can and more importantly, who CAN'T pick her up or take her out of school early.
Answer by QuinnMae at 10:16 AM on May. 13, 2013
Answer by baconbits at 10:35 AM on May. 13, 2013
You are her mother now- legally & in every other sense of the word. Even if bio mom is clean & sober, she gave up her rights. Yes it sucks that her addiction cost her something very precious, but you stepped up & did what she could not or would not do, be that child's mom. You are the only mom she's known. I think it would be very confusing & difficult on your child to have this stranger re-enter her life. Just knowing that she's doing well should be comfort enough to the bio mom. That's all she needs to know.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 10:45 AM on May. 13, 2013
Answer by QuinnMae at 11:02 AM on May. 13, 2013
Answer by missanc at 11:03 AM on May. 13, 2013
Answer by LostSoul88 at 11:13 AM on May. 13, 2013
Answer by baconbits at 11:18 AM on May. 13, 2013