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Open adoption

My DH and I were going to adopt a baby but the bmom changed her mind now she wants an open adoption but we want closed, what should we do?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 7:48 AM on May. 16, 2013 in General Parenting

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  • Open adoption can mean a lot of things. Most commonly identifying information of the adopting parents is not exchanged. Talk to the adoption agency and find out exactly what the bmom is looking for in an open adoption. If you aren't comfortable or the bmom seems flaky, back out now.
    RyansMom001

    Answer by RyansMom001 at 8:17 AM on May. 16, 2013

  • ^agree^ also with ope adoptions you can limit on how open it is.
    LostSoul88

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 9:04 AM on May. 16, 2013

  • Find another candidate.
    If she's changed her mind once, she might change her mind completely and keep the baby and you'll be heartbroken.
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 1:22 PM on May. 16, 2013

  • Personally i think open adoptions are the best way to go about it ,however if your not happy with it you should try to find a Mother that doesnt want anything to do with her child. The biological Mother has the right to want contact with you and the child,she should be able to give that HUGE gift of a child to a family that respects that, you normally come together and agree on what your both comfortable with. Sounds like bio mom and you guys arent a match. I know a couple who have an open adoption they write letters and see the birth mother twice a year, its grest for the child, he knows the love is there from his birth mother and it will be easier when hes older and it has to be explained to him properly, he wont feel the abandonment many adoptive kids do, as his mother is still a part of his life.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:20 AM on May. 17, 2013

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