I have been divorced 11 years. My kids with ex are 16 and 14 now, I also have a 3 year old with current husband, we have been together over 9 years. My ex has every other weekend, two weeks in summer, which he has only taken them in summer twice. My stress is that for almost the first 10 years my ex had no involvement with the kids except for his weekend, which he had to miss sometimes. We never fought over kids, because all he did was pick them up, drop them off, never in 10 years saw them in between or attended any activities, dr's ,school events, etc. Never once asked me about the kids, or only talks were can we switch weekends. For almost six years never even talked to them on phone in between visits. I have been the only parent for 10 years making decisions for my children. A little over a year ago I went after him for back support, in turn he is suing me for custody after 11 years. Now he is father of the year, he badgers all the time about school work, dr's, punishments. My son stayed home from school sick , and he wants to know why he wasn't notified, but all this involvement is via texts, and emails to his teachers. Before last year he never even stepped foot into either school. He told weird lies for his reasons for custody switch, that my lawyer says he has no basis, I know he really has no chance, but now I went from not dealing with him for 10 years, to he wants input on everything and, blaming me for not telling him anything. I tried to tell him things 10 years ago, he never cared or did anything, so that stopped for 9 years. Now I get weekly texts on why I'm not informing him. People say just start telling him things, but I find it hard after so long that I have to now, and I know why he is doing this now, to try and get his support lower, so every interaction with him is stressing me out to know end. I don't know how to handle the situation. Sorry for the long rant.
Asked by Anonymous at 9:52 AM on May. 18, 2013 in Parenting Debate
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