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My spouse andI have tried to have a baby, but i dont want one-so how do i explain ,without hurting his feelings ? adult content

married for 10 yrs in my late 30's turning 40 next year/ he wants one I don't want kids have cats instead.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 9:20 PM on May. 19, 2013 in Pregnancy

Answers (19)
  • Just blurt it out quickly.
    RyansMom001

    Answer by RyansMom001 at 9:24 PM on May. 19, 2013

  • Tell him that you feel that you are too old to have a baby anymore.
    PartyGalAnne

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 9:25 PM on May. 19, 2013

  • So this never came up? For 10 years? Didn't you talk about having kids before marriage?
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 9:26 PM on May. 19, 2013

  • This was a situation with someone I work with. Sadly the marriage ended.
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 9:26 PM on May. 19, 2013

  • If it were me, I would sit him down and tell him I needed to speak with him about this. And just come right out and say I just don't feel, feel in my heart, that having children is right for me. I do not want to have children." Be honest and forth coming about your feelings and thoughts. Answer his questions and try not to get too emotional. If your roles were reversed how would you want him to come to you about this? Good luck.
    LadybugTash

    Answer by LadybugTash at 9:35 PM on May. 19, 2013

  • ?? If you didn't want kids then why did you "try" ? Did you want them before and changed your mind or did you lie to him ?
    LeJane

    Answer by LeJane at 9:37 PM on May. 19, 2013

  • Time to get a good divorce lawyer!!
    Crafty26

    Answer by Crafty26 at 9:42 PM on May. 19, 2013

  • Didn't you guys discuss this before you got married? How has this never come up before? There is no good way to tell him at this point. He is going to be hurt by whatever you say.
    kmath

    Answer by kmath at 9:45 PM on May. 19, 2013

  • Tell him you'd like to just be a crazy cat lady and that he should find someone else to procreate with
    funlovinlady

    Answer by funlovinlady at 9:48 PM on May. 19, 2013

  • what are you doing on cafemom if you dont have kids?
    tnm786

    Answer by tnm786 at 9:49 PM on May. 19, 2013

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