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Preschooler who yells at strangers

My 3 year old daughter has recently started yelling at people.
People in the store will say hi to her or something nice like they like her shirt & she points her finger and screams.
She has never had social anxiety problems. She used to be very friendly with everyone.
She even acts like that if people come to our house. She doesn't do it to people she's close with (like family), but people she barely knows or doesn't know at all.

I immediately tell her no yelling & ask her to apologize. We also talk about it when we get home or the person leaves.
I stay home with her so I'm with her all the time and noone screams at her like that, so she didn't pick it up from someone, that I know of.

Any tips or has anyone been through this???
Thank you!!!

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Asked by tmp1283 at 3:42 PM on May. 20, 2013 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • only thing i can think of has something major happened to her recently? you know, started preschool, moved, family member die or move away?

    Answer by noel1978 at 3:45 PM on May. 20, 2013

  • That doesn't sound normal. have you try to talk to her on why she does it?

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 3:46 PM on May. 20, 2013

  • Thank you for your replies!
    We had a baby 8 months ago. She's really good with him most of the time, but I know she's having some jealousy issues.
    I have talked to her. We talk before we go out or someone comes over. We talk about how they are sad when she does that,etc.

    Comment by tmp1283 (original poster) at 4:00 PM on May. 20, 2013

  • Has she learned about "Stranger danger"? Maybe she's taking it too far?

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 4:04 PM on May. 20, 2013

  • She hasn't.
    And I swear we do not go around yelling at people haha!
    I always encourage her to say hi back to someone and thank you and be pleasant.

    Comment by tmp1283 (original poster) at 4:06 PM on May. 20, 2013

  • From a few of your other questions it seems that when stressed she often screams
    Have you tried role playing. Have her practice " what if" situations to teach her better behavior
    Perhaps then you can discover why she screams?

    Answer by feralxat at 4:14 PM on May. 20, 2013

  • That's a good idea! Thank you. I will definitely try to talk about what if situations instead of only telling her we don't yell at people. Thanks!!!

    Comment by tmp1283 (original poster) at 4:17 PM on May. 20, 2013

  • Does your eight-month old cry when he sees strangers? Maybe your daughter is copying him?

    Answer by Ballad at 4:43 PM on May. 20, 2013

  • Once in a while my 8month old will whine when he first sees a stranger, but then once they talk to him, he's fine. So it's not like a typical thing for him to scream around strangers. I'm getting a little nervous because it doesn't seem totally normal.

    Comment by tmp1283 (original poster) at 10:48 PM on May. 20, 2013

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