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I need to vent :(

I just need to vent. I'm also curious if anyone has had this happen.

It is the visitation weekend for my kids dad. He texted me to tell me he wasn't going to be seeing the kids this weekend because he is going on a date.

My kids are upset. Their dad has only been moved out/ split up from me for 6 weeks. They are 4 and 2 and they don't understand why they can't go to their dads, and why daddy isn't here with mommy.

Any tips on how to get my kids through this?

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Asked by Anonymous at 3:50 PM on May. 24, 2013 in General Parenting

Answers (12)
  • I would tell them something came up that their father has to take care of, than spend time with them. Later talk with him to see if he can arrange dates outside of weekend time or not all weekend.

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 3:56 PM on May. 24, 2013

  • wow he moves fast
    I'd say Daddy had to work, spend time with them have some fun
    AND tell your ex to arrange his dates & fun time not the weekends he sees his children!? let him think about it & let him know it is upsetting.

    Answer by sarasmommy777 at 4:01 PM on May. 24, 2013

  • keep them occupied. Don't tell them WHY he isn't going to be there

    Answer by LostSoul88 at 4:03 PM on May. 24, 2013

  • In the future, do not tell them in advance when they're supposed to see them. Sounds like he'll be one of the chronic don't give a fuckers until they're before the judge and singing a different song.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 4:12 PM on May. 24, 2013

  • Don't ever tell them again that he is coming over. Then, if he happens to show up, it will be a surprise.

    Answer by NannyB. at 4:24 PM on May. 24, 2013

  • What NP said... then start a note book, save and print out those texts, write down dates, etc.... they more info you have going into court the better. Even after things are settle still keep a log... you never know when your going to need that info to use against him!!!!

    Answer by Crafty26 at 4:33 PM on May. 24, 2013

  • First, do not tell them when dad is coming. Or if he is suppose to come get them. So they will not be upset. I would avoid answering their "why isn't daddy living with us"

    Answer by louise2 at 5:25 PM on May. 24, 2013

  • Wow, he's an ass! Make sure you document him missing vistation.

    Answer by 3libras at 5:38 PM on May. 24, 2013

  • 1. Don't tell them about his visits. Let them be a surprise, that way they are never disappointed.

    2. If he insists on you telling them he'll be visiting, or if he tells them himself, then when he cancels, make HIM tell them. When he calls and says he can't make it, you say, "Hang on, let me put Sally on." Then hand the phone to your 4 yr old and let her ask him why he won't be there and he can tell her how his new gf is more important. Bet you that won't last long.

    Answer by wendythewriter at 6:46 PM on May. 24, 2013

  • Have them call their dad, let him explain. Then do something fun with the kids.

    Answer by RyansMom001 at 9:07 PM on May. 24, 2013

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