I'm frustrated. My daughter was playing with one of the neighborhood girls this morning, and another girl invited them both to go to the pool with her and her dad and brother after they had breakfast. Since there was going to be an adult I knew along, I agreed and helped my daughter get into her swimsuit, water shoes, and life vest. She waited by the window, and waited and waited and waited, but her friends never came to pickher up like they'd said they would. Finally, I decided plans must have changed and walked over to the pool with my daughter myself. The other kids were already there, splashing and having a great time. When my daughter asked why they hadn't stopped to pick her up, they said they forgot. She told them she was angry and disappointed, which I thought was a good use of emotion words and not pointing fingers or calling them names or anything, just letting them know how they'd made her feel. I told the dad that she'd been waiting by the window for almost an hour, I thought he should know, and he launched into this tirade about how he had the IRS to deal with because he owed unexpected taxes and had to dip into his retirement account so there were more important problems in the world than my little issues. Usually he's a nice guy, so I just chalked it up to a bad day. I told my daughter her friends hadn't left her out intentionally, and she might as wel play and have a good time. I took my turn at supervision, and then when another mom I trusted got there, I came home. That's sort of the unofficial way the pool is handled, so all the parents don't end up spending their entire days there. But should I have said anything to the dad, or let my daughter tell the kids how it felt to be forgotten like that, or should I have just kept quiet and stoppd her from telling them?
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Answer by louise2 at 3:43 PM on May. 25, 2013
I always confirm with the adult, not the child.
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