We visited my husband's family, and I need to vent!
When my hubby and I first started dating in college, I never imagined 20+ years later his brother and sister would STILL be living at home with their parents! It's like "Never Land" over there!
My brother-in-law is in his early 40's. He's done a lot of drugs/alcohol, and is a classic underachiever. He works pumping gas just to have spending money. His mom cooks his meals and does his laundry. When he's home, he's watching TV or playing video games.
My sister in law is in her mid 40's and is a single mom. She was dating a alcoholic, had unprotected sex(She believes using birth control is a sin, but I guess premaital sex is ok!LOL), and got pregnant, when she was around 30. She became the "Family Martyr". (I am sooo sick of hearing about how the bum took advantage of her! She chose to engage in reckless sex! UGH!) She comes and goes as she pleases. Her parents basically are raising her child. She has a professional job, but wastes her money on $800 purses, plastic surgery, gambling, etc. Her child has become a spoiled, entitled brat. Grandma and Grandpa dote on him, because he doesn't have a dad in his life. They are creating another monster!
These two adult children pay $25 dollars a week rent, and all the rest is disposable income. They live like overgrown teenagers! I get angry, because my husband and I both work hard, and our money goes on BILLS! I wish I had 1/2 their disposable income! (I would LOVE to be able to afford a new car and exotic vacations!!) However, I wouldn't trade places with them. They are both unhappy, lonely people!
MY SIL will complain about how she has no say in raising her kid, and can't meet a decent guy-HELLO-Maybe it's time to move out and take control of your life!
Seriously, these two seem stunted emotionally, and I don't understand why my in-laws don't encourage them to be self-reliant. They're stagnating! This is no kind of life for two adults. I would be upset if my children were like this, and encourage them to fly!
Does anyone else have family members like this? Thanks for listening!
Asked by Anonymous at 2:17 AM on May. 26, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by admckenzie at 2:21 AM on May. 26, 2013
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Answer by Ballad at 3:23 PM on May. 26, 2013
I have a 25 year old son that is a musician, hard field to make it on your own......but he works 40 hours a week, has a degree in something other than music and is living at home, paying his way for his own things, and a darling of a son otherwise. He is now saving his money to get a place of his own, he has no plans to stay with us indefinitely but he knows he is welcome in his home as long as he needs us. Your scenario is a lot different, and they have done harm to their children by allowing this..my son does not pay me rent, but he doesn't throw his $ away on frivolous stuff either, he is saving to emancipate, whic is a good sign to me. The only reason he doesn't give us anything is because we don't need the $, we are well off and can provide, but if things were different he would.
Answer by older at 9:58 AM on May. 28, 2013