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Before pregnancy he treated me like dirt. Always downing me and so forth yet I still allowed him to be in baby's life. I just recently had our baby and now he's buying me things being so nice to me and getting a little too close but we never "talk" about it. Should I bring it up or let it be? I mean I don't want to sound like I want him back and don't get me wrong I'd love to be with him again but after the way he treated me IDK.

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:29 PM on May. 26, 2013 in Relationships

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  • Learn from your past mistakes. He sounds like a huge one.

    Answer by Ginger0104 at 2:08 PM on May. 26, 2013

  • If you don't want him back--and why would you--it would be only fair to bring it up and tell him that you appreciate how nice he is being, but it isn't going to make you start a relationship with him again.

    Answer by Ballad at 2:12 PM on May. 26, 2013

  • Maybe he feels guilty. But, he's probably just buying stuff for the baby. Make sure he pays CS.

    Answer by 3libras at 2:20 PM on May. 26, 2013

  • Just accept his kindness and enjoy your child.

    He doesn't sound like the one.

    Answer by staciandababy at 2:41 PM on May. 26, 2013

  • Always remember that People do NOT change. Eventually he'll turn int the same jerk he was. He's just on a new baby high.

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 3:03 PM on May. 26, 2013

  • I wouldn't give a second chance in a case like this.

    Answer by QuinnMae at 3:21 PM on May. 26, 2013

  • confused


    Answer by smiley745 at 5:51 PM on May. 26, 2013

  • Plan on being a single mom. Then you won't be disappointed.

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 10:38 PM on May. 26, 2013

  • I just read in my journal last night that why go back, ever? never go back because nothing good has ever ever come from it in the long run
    thats just what i read and I still agree with that, only with my own experience

    Answer by lullaby572 at 4:39 PM on Jun. 4, 2013

  • You have t do what you feel is right for you and the baby in the long run! Maybe this is his way of saying hes sorry!

    Answer by momof11995 at 2:56 PM on Jul. 16, 2013

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