About a year ago I found out that my boyfriend of two years had sexual intercourse with a 17 year old when he was 28 just 2 months before he met me. I found out by cleaning up his room, and he had a bunch of junk under his bed, and I found her letter. In the letter she mentioned they had sex, but asked why he never kissed her.
This broke my heart into a million pieces. I immediately broke down crying after reading her letter, and at the same time, so disgusted. I questioned him, and supposedly it was just a few times. But I don't care if it was just once!! He broke down crying, and seemed very remorseful. He kept apologizing, and saying he asked god for forgiveness all the time. I just don't know if its sincere. After being hurt, angry, and disgusted for awhile, I eventually got over it. I don't think I'll ever truly forgive him for it. My baby brother is 16. I have a son, and want a girl someday. I'm sorry but I would want to kill that other person if it were my child. But I love this man, I was already in love when I found this out.
I was having a conversation with a man in his 20s, and he was telling me how a lot of men mess with 17 year old, that I'd be surprised.
Now I'm not trying to justify what he did, I just feel like maybe I'm thinking way too into this.
What are your thoughts on this?
Asked by Anonymous at 8:40 PM on May. 27, 2013 in Relationships
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:44 PM on May. 27, 2013
Answer by virginiamama71 at 8:44 PM on May. 27, 2013
I eventually got over it. I don't think I'll ever truly forgive him for it.
This is a contradiction. If you can't ever truly forgive him then you are clearly not 'over it'. You either trust him or you don't.
As for it being normal for a man in his 20's to screw with a 17 year old, I would hope that isn't normal. Seems like they wouldn't have much in common. I guess beyond immaturity.
Answer by QuinnMae at 8:45 PM on May. 27, 2013
Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 8:46 PM on May. 27, 2013
Answer by missanc at 8:50 PM on May. 27, 2013
Answer by gdiamante at 8:51 PM on May. 27, 2013
Answer by butterflyblue19 at 8:53 PM on May. 27, 2013
Answer by tntmom1027 at 9:00 PM on May. 27, 2013
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