I don't have my own children. I am almost 50. My husband had 5 kids, 3 daughters nearby and 2 of those live with us. They are teenagers, which is difficult, but they are spoiled rotten--and I do mean rotten. They are rude, disrespectful, defiant, say 'no' without consequence, don't do anything around the house -- even after fights. My husband has given them cell phones, cars, money at almost every turn, just about everything they ask for they get -- regardless if they just grossly mistreated us.
I love my husband. I have tried to be a positive parental figure. I have lost my grip. I have turned into a royal bitch and I don't care anymore. I don't know how to parent children without consequences, they actually laugh at him if he threatens to take away their car or restrict them. I'm supposed to be part of the family but I get told not to interfere and let him handle it. He's not handling it.
The man I loved isn't the strong person I respected. He's not the father I thought he was. His children are downright horrible. I already know my answer. I just hope someone can say something to make me believe it's OK to stay.
Answer by missanc at 3:35 PM on May. 29, 2013
Answer by Ballad at 3:36 PM on May. 29, 2013
Answer by Kword at 3:45 PM on May. 29, 2013
Answer by daylily888 at 3:50 PM on May. 29, 2013
Marriage counseling would probably be the best thing for the two of you. Talking it through in front of a neutral third party will increase the likelihood that things won't get ugly and hopefully the therapist could help keep the discussion on track.
Answer by QuinnMae at 4:27 PM on May. 29, 2013
This is the reason when I was looking for a man, 24 years ago. I wanted a man with out kids or grown kids. So you didn't know this about him and his kids before you married him? Make your mind up? Stay and deal with the teens tell they move out or leave and get your sanity back
Answer by louise2 at 4:27 PM on May. 29, 2013
Answer by admckenzie at 6:17 PM on May. 29, 2013
Answer by silverthreads at 7:40 PM on May. 29, 2013
It is doubtful he is going to change anytime soon. Unless you were only with him a very short time you probably knew how he was with his kids when you married him and it is only now bothering you because they are teens and finally acting out. You have to learn to accept your life or move on. I personally would move on but I then again I probably wouldn't have married a man who can't even keep or earn the respect of his children.
Answer by Anonymous at 12:25 AM on May. 30, 2013
Answer by gdiamante at 12:39 AM on May. 30, 2013