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my kids touch to much and won't STOP HELP

I have 3 sons 7,4,3 I'm having so much fuss about them listening.they will not stop touching objects pushing chsirs down touching drinks or food that isn't theirs.or books or puctures frames i yell i put then in the corner i AM VERY STRICK my husband and are lost and extremely fustraded we don't know what else to do. I want them to just behave

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mamaa7boys

Asked by mamaa7boys at 2:11 PM on Jun. 2, 2013 in General Parenting

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  • How about a blow up pool & some beach balls. They sound bored. You just have to keep them occupied. I'd send them all to play outside in a safe area that's fenced in. How about a reward system?
    ILovemyPaulie

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 2:15 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • Childre are good with listening if they are talked to the right way. Also Keep them busy with other activities.
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 2:17 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • i AM VERY STRICK

    semi illiterate too

    How about just moving things out of their reach and lowering your voice?
    Or do you respond best when yelled at all the time and therefore expect the same from your children?
    feralxat

    Answer by feralxat at 2:22 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • Certain things should not be within reach. They sound bored, as mentioned before, and they want time with you and your husband. Many times kids go for the negative attention if they do not get enough positive attention. You should all play games together, go for a walk, play ball, etc., etc
    silverthreads

    Answer by silverthreads at 2:27 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • Kids are kids. You might want to lighten up a little or their teen years will be hellish with the rebelling. Touching other people's food isn't good, but sometimes you need to just let things go in order to move forward.
    QuinnMae

    Answer by QuinnMae at 2:35 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • Boys, esp. boys that age can be quite a hand-full. Like others have said, they need to use up all that energy. Get them outside to play as much as you can. Plan a picnic at the park, toss a ball or a Frisbee, play at the playground, etc. Soon school will be out & your oldest will be home all day & you will have to occupy them all or they will drive you nuts. Hopefully you have a pool nearby- swimming is a great way to use up that energy. GL

    mrsmom110

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 2:45 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • Sometimes being too strict isn't a good thing and will actually cause kids to act up more. How often do you interact with your children? Do you take them outside to play? Do you have fun activities for them at home? Do you talk to them like they're human beings, or like they're an annoying pet? Pick your battles and you'll find your life will be much better, and your sanity just might be salvaged.
    anime_mom619

    Answer by anime_mom619 at 2:48 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • You might need to pick your battles. If you're being too strict, and making too many rules, you might be making it impossible for them to remember them all. Put up things that can be put up (figurines, books, etc.), don't leave drinks and food within their reach if you don't want them to touch them, and send them outside to burn off energy.

    I have 2 boys with ADHD. I learned a long time ago to pick my battles. Some things just aren't worth the fight and it's easier and better to change the situation than to change my kids.
    wendythewriter

    Answer by wendythewriter at 3:31 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • Before you yel at your kids about something, think through whether it really matters. If one of them is pushing someone down,that's worth a reprimand. But if he's touching a book or picture frame, or even his brother's drink, is it worth getting juiced up over? And if you yell about minor infractions like that and put the kids in corners, what do you do when they act up in a bigger way? Use all your ammo on the small stuff and you have nothing left for truly important misdeeds.

    Why not take the kids to a park or a pool to let them run off energy? Boys especially can get exuberan on beautiful summer days; that's part of what's so endearing about them.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 3:34 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • Small children are natural sensory seekers. They want to touch things to learn. they are not trying to misbehave they are trying to explor their surroundings. It doesn't need to be punished it needs to be redirected. (ie. 'Please don't touch the picture frames, they may break or get dirty, maybe later we can make you your own picture Frame out of Popsicle sticks! Do you want to start drawing a picture for it?' or 'That is not your plate so please don't touch it. ___ doesn't want your germs on it... would you like a snack, lets go find you something.' ) You need to give them a more appropriate ways to explore with touch. Play dough, shaving cream, nature walks, let them help you cook, finger paint... visit new kid friendly places/venues.
    But_Mommie

    Answer by But_Mommie at 3:39 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

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