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Divorced moms or moms that aren't with the father of their kid(s)

do you have your small children do anything for your ex on their birthday, father's day, etc?


Asked by tnm786 at 7:47 PM on Jun. 2, 2013 in Relationships

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  • When my kids were little I always did. Regardless, two out of three of my kids are completely estranged from him so it really didn't matter in the end.

    Having said that, I think I did the right thing at the time.

    Answer by Mrs_Prissy at 9:15 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • I usually have him make a card or draw a picture for his dad. I won't buy him anything though.

    Answer by kmath at 7:49 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • I think that is definitely good enough. It is more than they normally tend to do for us on our days. LOL

    Answer by kmath at 7:58 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • Nope. He hasn't bothered to come see them, call them, write them, send them a gift for anything for the last 8.5-9 years. I see no reason for me to add to the hurt by having them do things for a man who wouldn't even show up to get whatever they might do. Screw him. If he wanted them to do things for him, then he should have been a father to them. I'd be happy to help them do things for him if he acted like a father rather than a sperm donor.

    Answer by wendythewriter at 8:30 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • When my boys were little, it was homemade cards. At Christmas time, I'd let them use cards I bought to mail out & put their school pics in them.

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 7:54 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • If my son wants to I will buy something but he has not said anything about it yet.

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 8:00 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • so hes lucky that im somewhat thoughtful! lol
    Comment by tnm786 (original poster) 2 minutes ago

    ^^^ Your kids are even luckier. They will appreciate that you did this for them.

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 8:04 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • yeah- but we're an anomaly we get along ok-ish

    Answer by feralxat at 8:04 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • my child's father has seen his child since Nov
    (i did see him in court a month ago, we did not speak but my lawyer spoke to him, and ex said he did not know if he could even come see her once a month for 2-3 hours)

    he did not even a Christmas gift sent for her

    i will not be mentioning fathers day, and the ex had a birthday last week

    * wish i had left him when i found out i was pregnant or at least half dozen times before i left- before daughter would remember him and therefore miss him
    ** no father at all, much better than a "father" that was there for 3 years, then very little- and trailing off to nothing


    Answer by Anonymous at 8:10 PM on Jun. 2, 2013

  • Nope. He has done everything he could to make my life a living hell for the past 8 years. I have a hard time simply keeping my mouth shut (although I do)

    Answer by missanc at 9:39 PM on Jun. 2, 2013