I am at a lost. But, at the same time he's done this before. So, it's the same guy i've talked about it on here over and over. He's the guy i've liked for so long. He's the guy that will run hot and than cold. He's the guy that clearly doesn't know what he wants. Anyways! Case in point. We were together sexually after 17 years of wanting to. We talked about it for 9 months by phone and text before we did. I didn't want to sleep with him until I had my divorce atleast processed. Typical hard part he met somebody. They dated for I want to say 3 months maybe less. Were' both 31. He's never been married nor has he been in love or with someone for longer then 6 months. I really was happy for him and moved on. They broke up back in Febuary and then he started to chat with me again. For the last 3 months. He's tried to invite me over. Either I fell asleep or couldn't come over. (work the next day or had my son) Then he got the picture that he was going to need to make some what of a plan with me or it was never going to happen. He contacted me that week and asked if I had my son for that weekend. I replied no and he said we should get together this weekend. I said ok it could be fun. On Thursday that week he contacted me again. We texted a little bit. I sent him some photos of me and then he said he said I want you. He hasn't said that in a long time before we had sex the first time. Then on Saturday night he texted me. Asked what I was doing and chatted a little bit. I thought he was going to invite me over finally but then he didn't obviously. Why did he make this big deal several times to ask me over and then not go through with it? Nor you dont still no the whole story. But, I truly mean he's ran hot then cold with me. I've heard that if you don't where you stand then you need to move on. I"m really trying I just don't get it. I did move on several times from him, I did turn him down several times. I don't give in to tempation as easy as some of the other girls he been with. I've also read that a guy typically will have sex anytime he can get it. So, if that's the case. Then why is he not now. It makes me think he doesn't want to take advantage of me. I sent him a text 2 weeks later from the Saturday night. I said I really want you. And he said oh really why is that? and it took me 2 hours to respond. And when I did He didn't say anything. I said. I just wanted you to know how I feel. Your awesome. you always have been, I want more of your awesomeness. the reason i said something like that is to keep it not so heartfelt but not so hey I'm thinking of you only for sex. some other background. This guy he doesn't like goodbyes, he doesn't like to plan too much.. wants it spantatous( i know I didn't spell that right) He contacted me after he broke up with his girlfriend. He said I was awesome catch, that he liked my company. HE said while I was married how he wished he would of taken me out did this or that. I said I had a secret crush on him in HS. He said he did as well, we talked about how we both would look at eachother during class and wonder about how it would be. So, I have to ask with all that history (and more) why is acting like this? I am trying to move on. I am aware their other guys out there. I moved once before I married an asshole and then divorced him. I've been trying to date. This guy has broke my heart time and time again. Just by him not being honest about his feelings. I get a little bit of it and think its ' going to be different and then I start to think I'm the fall back girl or he's just not that into me. But, the truth is I get really mixed signals. I've let him go over the course of the last year atleast 5 times. And then he reappears again. IT's so frustrasting.
PS. Please understand if you have nothing but mean things to say please don't I'm fine with the blunt comments within reason. I'm really trying here. thanks.
Answer by HappyEndings at 10:26 AM on Jun. 4, 2013
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Answer by NannyB. at 10:25 AM on Jun. 4, 2013
He's the guy that clearly doesn't know what he wants.
Then on Saturday night he texted me. Asked what I was doing and chatted a little bit. I thought he was going to invite me over finally but then he didn't obviously.
This guy has broke my heart time and time again. Just by him not being honest about his feelings. I get a little bit of it and think its ' going to be different and then I start to think I'm the fall back girl or he's just not that into me.
^^^ The signals aren't so mixed. I think you should tell him that you think you two would be better off staying friends. Don't beat yourself up over his issues. Find someone that wants to be with you.
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