I was at my son's graduation and his "step-mom" (in quotes as that's what she and my ex insist on calling her even though they aren't married, just living together) was acting like she was his mom. I'm sorry, but *I* am his mother. I carried him for 9 months. I went thru the 10 hours of labor. I was there when he was sick. I was there for his 1st step. I was there his 1st day of school. You get the point. I've been there and I'm still there. My ex didn't want to be married any more so he left. But I still have my kids every other weekend. Plus holidays, plus I send them FB messages. And above else, my kids know I'm here for them if they ever need me.
I don't want my ex back in any way shape or form. Now that I have seen his true colors and have thought about how controlling he really was (reminds me of the post where the woman wasn't ALLOWED to turn on the AC. Yeah, there were many things I wasn't ALLOWED to do), I just don't want him. Besides, I am really happy with my current SO and he treats me WAY better.
I never wanted to be an ex wife. I never wanted my kids to have a step mom. I'm glad that she loves my kids and I truly am glad that she makes him happy. I'm no longer "in love" with him but I will always love him. He is still the father of my children and we did have many happy memories together. I'm just really having a hard time with this and wondering if it will ever get better. Or will I forever want to rip her eyes out every time she says anything to my kids or touches them?
Answer by Ballad at 12:01 AM on Jun. 7, 2013
Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 9:57 PM on Jun. 6, 2013
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Answer by tnm786 at 9:51 PM on Jun. 6, 2013
I agree with KristiS, although, I do understand where you are coming from. I think it is natural to have those "mama bear" instincts.
Answer by JeremysMom at 9:52 PM on Jun. 6, 2013
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