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We have an 11 year old daughter (foster child) and we need to know wha kind of discipline we can use. We have tried grounding, taking away privliges, and nothing works. Any advice would e appreciated.

She has anger issues, defiance.

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fostermom2010

Asked by fostermom2010 at 12:14 PM on Jun. 7, 2013 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • Have you consulted the School Psychologist? I'd start there & see what they can recommend.
    ILovemyPaulie

    Answer by ILovemyPaulie at 12:17 PM on Jun. 7, 2013

  • Have you contacted Foster Care for options for counseling?
    virginiamama71

    Answer by virginiamama71 at 12:19 PM on Jun. 7, 2013

  • My foster mom would make us do work. Like spring cleaning kinda stuff. Clean everything, everywhere(even behind the fridge and stove)! Dust everything, wash everything(curtains, blinds, floors, even ceilings). Clean out the basement/attic, yard work. Organize cupboards, etc. You name it, we did it. Even help haul bricks for the new patio(there was a lot of them and took a long time!). And it did work for us.
    Lobelia

    Answer by Lobelia at 12:43 PM on Jun. 7, 2013

  • counseling for the anger?

    defiance how? I mean like what is she doing that is defiant
    charlotsomtimes

    Answer by charlotsomtimes at 1:25 PM on Jun. 7, 2013

  • The biggest thing is to get to the root of the anger issues in counseling. If she's eleven and in foster care, she's probably rightfully angry. That aside, physical activity works well for blowing off anger. Have her do cleaning, organize a closet, something like that. And be sure to build exercise into her routine because that may help her discover more productive ways to let off steam.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 2:51 PM on Jun. 7, 2013

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