So yes he does work, he works hard to provide for me and dd. But here lately little things I have observed him doing or rather not doing, and/or saying. For example today he had a CPL (concealed pistol license) class. He has just had 5 people. Its about an 8 hr class. Anyway, dd was doing something or wanted something and I hear him say "Damn it I can't even sit down!" Hes been home since 6pm. And working, I do know what he does is rather tiring and exhausting. The days he work from open to close 6:45 am to approx 9pm and he gets home and she wants to play I do understand he is tired, and she is getting ready for bed herself. But 15 min or so too much to fucking ask??
Then most times he has Saturday through Tuesday off. He claims he needs to get things done outside, or clean stuff in the garage, whatever. He has 4 fucking days off!!! He cannot even take 1 day and take her to the park? He tells me if I want them to spend time together why should he take her to a park where she will be playing with the other kids? I tell him she knows you are there, thats all she wants. Plus he could push her on the swing. The last time they spent time alone, outside the house was back in November on her b-day! I told him to take her to the McD's playland so I could set things up at home for her party and stuff. I tell him I would love some me time every once in awhile. He then tells me I could go out and he could stay home with her. Well thats fine and dandy, except I have no money or anyone to go out with. But staying home and reading a few new books on my kindle on the back porch with a bag of popcorn, in which I can eat all by MYSELF! Whooohooo!
It seems like when he is home and she wants to play with him he almost gets irritated at her telling her he is tired or doesn't feel like it. Then he gets short with her when she wants to spend time with him. Then he wonders why she really doesn't listen to him, but she will listen to me. Well hell, I am with her 24/7. Its like a different dynamic in my household when it comes to things. Or at least to what I am used too. For me growing up, it was the daddy who enforced the rules, but it was mom we all 'walked over'. It was like "You wait until your father gets home!!!"
When I bring up the subject, he gets pouty, and then says something like "Well guess I am a horrible father" GRRRRRRRRR And I drop it, or I will end up in an argument with him. Meanwhile, my dentist gets pissed at me for the grinding I do with my teeth. How in the hell can I change this? She wants to play with him and for a while he does, then after about 20 min he stops, and she gets upset. It gotten to the point I will go back into the computer room and force him to spend time with her because I lock the door! Then I hear her laughing, and it gets rid of the guilt I have. lol There is another thing, when she gets hurt or upset she wants mommy, then his feelings get hurt, and I have this overwhelming feeling of wanting to bang my head against the wall.
Any suggestions?? Please?? Anything??
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