I'd be agreeing with him. And reminding him that bonding is made or broken EVERY DAY of your daughter's life. He's screwing it up ROYALLY.
And then I'd put "Cats in the Cradle" on a constant loop on your stereo or whatever you have for playing music.
And if you'd like my Baseball Bat of Common Sense, I'll be happy to send it to you.
Answer by gdiamante
LOL!! I came on here as I was cooking dinner to if there were any new answers and read all the answers I got. Then I log off and start get ready to set the table. I find out dd is spitting on her dresser and I gag when I see it and have to clean it up. So I ask my dh to clean it up for me. Well he grabbed the Clorox cleaner with bleach I use to clean my bathroom. He used it to clean up the dresser and then he used it on dd's wooden desk. I smell and I just asked him if he rinsed off her dresser, he tells me he dried it, and I ask him to get a wet washcloth and just rinsed it. Thats when I discover he used it on her desk. It says avoid contact with wood. So I ask him if he would get a wet cloth and rinse it also. He then looks at me and says "do you think I would do anything to hurt our dd" I said of course not, but she sometimes will eat at her desk and I was afraid of maybe any food might get some bleach residue or what the hell ever. He tell me thats how he is interpreting it. I told I can't help how he interprets what I say. I just read on the bottle and thats what it says, so I am guessing they have it there for a reason. Thats when he goes on the "I am a bad father" shit. I had it, and once again my mouth starts saying shit before my brain has a chance to analyze anything. And I said and yup you guessed it, I said that any bonding that is made or broken EVERY DAY of your daughter's life, and he is screwing it up ROYALLY." His facial expression was fucking priceless!! He then went into computer room and closed the door. DD comes out to see what was going on and I tell her that daddy is being a typical man and he is pouting. She seems to accept that and continued watching Dora.
DH comes out and say he is not pouting. I raise my eyebrows like seriously? What would you call it? He says he is tired of all the stress in this house, namely dd. She seems to enjoy pushing his buttons, and doesn't stop until he is yelling at her. I tell I put up with temper tantrums, disobeying me, not listening to me every freaking day 24/7. You know 4 yr old stuff. She listens to me better then she listens to him. I tell him to start taking her places when she get up in the morning when he has the day off. Then he can still get things done at the house. Take her to the park. She may then realize she can do fun with daddy as well as mommy. Tell her if she is good and eats all her breakfast and cleans up, they will go for a walk or to the park. Its not a bribe its a reward system. And if she doesn't do it, she doesn't go. He looks at me funny, and I say you must carry the threat out, or she will walk all over you. ANd when you leave she will throw a fit, so I take her to Mc'Ds and get her a fruit parfait, or a small fry and apple juice. Then come home and he will see she will be different because she got out the excess energy.
I try telling him it will be different when she get into pre-school becasue she will be with kids her age, will be able to work out and play and be creative, but he doesn't believe me. lol
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