It's been 11 weeks now since we've had any communication with them. The sole exception was on May 29th (day before our daughters b-day) a text that said simply "can we meet for lunch and gifts?" to which we choose to not reply. There's been a few snail mail letters/cards sent, too, and we returned to sender them. Originally 11 weeks ago we said if they didn't cease communication we'd get a restraining order but we've yet to act on that, mostly since we're just happy they stopped showing up at my husbands job embarrassing him.
Marriage has never been better. It's been amazing... our arguments now are limited to we're eating too much boring chicken and where to see the fireworks this year. We fought over them constantly in the past and the drama being removed is hugely apparent.
BUT.... in the pits of my stomach as the time is ticking on here I am beginning to feel some guilt. These aren't my crazy parents, they're his. And I certainly don't miss them ... but I feel some uncomfortable remorse/guilt. I have no idea what to do... bringing this up to hubby seems very stupid. But the feeling is uncomfortable. Thoughts?
I don't know what caused the cut off, but you have to stay strong. I recommend joining this group if you already haven't.
they have a lot if experience in cut offs and would probably have good info on how to approach the subject with your DH since it is his family.
Answer by QuinnMae at 12:18 PM on Jun. 10, 2013
Answer by HappyEndings at 12:31 PM on Jun. 10, 2013
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Answer by Ballad at 2:59 PM on Jun. 10, 2013
That's hard. Don't know what made you get to that point, but it must be severe to return cards & gifts meant for your child's B-day. Are they that toxic that you can't allow their grandchildren to accept a gift or to be around them? If so, then I'm sad for all of you. That's just something I never had to deal with growing up.
Answer by mrsmom110 at 3:05 PM on Jun. 10, 2013
Answer by NannyB. at 3:10 PM on Jun. 10, 2013
Answer by louise2 at 3:21 PM on Jun. 10, 2013
Well, ultimately you have to do what's best for your family. I would def. follow hubby's lead on this one. Maybe the guilt you are referring to is that you don't want to completely close the door on them, esp. since they seem to be reaching out to the grandkids. Just a guess on that last part. I guess for now, enjoy the peace & tranquility :)
Answer by mrsmom110 at 4:17 PM on Jun. 10, 2013