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Am I the only wife that is like this?

Reading a few posts and talking with some of my friends and family, I am now almost convinced that I am weird.

I don't care if my husband has female friends, at work or otherwise.
I don't care if he ever goes to a strip club(even though he never has)
I don't care if he watches porn
I don't care if he talks on the phone or texts other women (married or not)

I have seen my MIL accuse my FIL for years, she jumps on him (almost literally) if she finds out he spoke to a woman at all. She starts fights at restaurants if he gave the waitress a tip too big, or if he looked at her. My SIL is the same way, so are most of my friends. To me it just seems like they are completely insecure.

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leksismommy

Asked by leksismommy at 9:43 PM on Jun. 12, 2013 in Relationships

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  • No, but most who are feel no need to post and complain about anything, so it seems like the paranoid are the majority.
    NotPanicking

    Answer by NotPanicking at 9:45 PM on Jun. 12, 2013

  • No it's not you. They're insecure or their men have given them reason to doubt. I am one of the lucky ones & completely trust my husb. I know he would not do that to me, our marriage, or our family. Good for you for finding a good one too. :)

    mrsmom110

    Answer by mrsmom110 at 9:46 PM on Jun. 12, 2013

  • I feel the same way but man so many women on this site are completely insecure about their husbands. I see some of their posts and almost feel sorry for them, almost. Lol
    funlovinlady

    Answer by funlovinlady at 9:46 PM on Jun. 12, 2013

  • I'm the same way too.
    Izsarejman

    Answer by Izsarejman at 9:47 PM on Jun. 12, 2013

  • Everything is circumstantial. You can so "Oh I'm ok with this, this, and that" but for me it all depends on the situation.
    Hollyhock.

    Answer by Hollyhock. at 9:47 PM on Jun. 12, 2013

  • You're nowhere near the only one.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 9:52 PM on Jun. 12, 2013

  • I'm with Hollyhock. Do I care if he texts a woman? Sure, if its 3am and hes asking her what she's wearing. Not so much if she's a coworker and he had something to tell her.
    maecntpntz219

    Answer by maecntpntz219 at 9:54 PM on Jun. 12, 2013

  • I wouldn't care if my boyfriend did any of the things you listed. Jealousy isn't sexy. It's a big relationship killer, in my opinion.
    Ballad

    Answer by Ballad at 9:56 PM on Jun. 12, 2013

  • Thanks gals, I feel better. Some people are telling me I'm too trusting.
    leksismommy

    Comment by leksismommy (original poster) at 9:58 PM on Jun. 12, 2013

  • I don't feel worried about my DH doing any of those things. I'm sure he has at one point or another, but he has never given me reason to be jealous or suspicious. I suppose if he was deceitful of secretive by nature I might be a little more suspect. Then again I wouldn't have married him if he was that guy.
    tessiedawg

    Answer by tessiedawg at 10:00 PM on Jun. 12, 2013

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