My husband has this obsessive relationship with our puppy (5 months)....we got her when she was about 8weeks and he is all over her, all the time. The first thing he does when he wakes up in the morning is goes to the puppy and pets her, tells her good morning, cuddles with her...takes her out to the yard so she can go potty.....all this even before addressing our kids. Yeah. I've mentioned it numerous times that he needs to spend more time with our kids, talk to them first, give them hugs and kisses, tell them good morning, help me help the kids get breakfast/get dressed...etc. This continues throughout the day. He's either feeding her, getting fresh water, taking her outside to go potty (he doesn't like anyone else out there cause it distracts her), cuddling with her, playing with her, bathing her (almost every day)...the list goes on. He's ok to pet her if she's laying down but if the kids go to her he starts getting upset.
It's not just the care of her, but if he comes home from work, he will take her outside and expect her to go pee and poop on demand, if she doesn't she has to stay out on the deck. If she pees on the deck or gets scared of him and pees or poops out of fear then he "slides her" off the deck which she ends up falling/rolling down the stairs, spanks her, expects her to stand up straight even though she is literally having the crap scared out of her. He's grabbed the scruff of her neck and shaken her. I've seen this all with my own eyes...and much more. I call him out on it, I tell him to leave her alone. If' he's upset with her he starts yelling at her like she's a person...long conversations on how she's a bad girl etc.
The worst part is that she goes to sleep downstairs in the kennel and lately I've heard her yelp down there when he's down there to go to sleep cause he works third shift.
My husband and I have had problems in our relationship, and semi patched them up until he started doing all this stuff to our dog. I feel like I have to be a dog watcher now because I don't trust him with her, but it makes me SICK TO MY STOMACH that he could treat her this way. That he could IGNORE our kids for a dog. My kids are starting to treat the dog meanly and I am at my wits end. I am physically sick even thinking about it. I confront him even when I hear a yelp and he plays it off, but I know in my hearts of hearts that she wouldn't be yelping unless he was doing something.
I am so conflicted. I don't know how to get through to him about his time with the dog, and I don't want to get rid of the dog because my kids would be devastated.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:03 PM on Jun. 12, 2013 in Relationships
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Answer by PartyGalAnne at 10:43 PM on Jun. 12, 2013
A person who abuses animals usually (unless help is found) turns to people.... if children are around usually its them. You need to seek help for him and make sure to have a real talk with your kids to make sure he is not abusing them. Don't let it get that far.
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